Smart Wo/men and the BIGGEST mistake you make
I am so happy to see my summer vegetables take shape in the garden and later decorate my plate.
This summer I’ve planted lettuce, courgette, tomatoes and herbs, it’s a busy time to feed, water and care for my future nourishment
I’ve also been busy talking to and compiling, from all my ongoing conversations, around beyond detox, nutrition and your diets to establish the major target areas, for those of you wanting to shape shift on a permanent basis, and get a handle on how you view your own body.
Do you know the most common truth I come across every time, from all these stories of balancing weight.
It’s not all about the food, Which I am so happy to hear as it is right where I am and have been for a while now.
The food itself is usually only around 20% of the story and the remaining 80% is made up from emotional and spiritual beliefs. Your mindset has a lot to do with how you see the bigger picture, as well as how to see and feel things from a different perspective.
Let me explain and give you an personalised example.
When I am with you, I can hear it with your words and feel it through your energy on the call ”I have rejected my body, I am disappointed and hate my body.”
The women who contact me are certainly nutrition savvy. They are intelligent, and smart. They are busy and have deadlines to meet. They are executives, professionals, and hard working stay at home moms. However they all have one thing in common, they believe the problem is with their bodies and their food intake…and sadly they are all looking in the WRONG direction, lining up their eye and arrow onto the wrong target.
Certainly, I see smart women and men, and see the biggest mistake they make, is not actually knowing what their true target would be for permanent weight balance and getting the energy they need on a daily basis.
The target your missing is actually a tiny bit more challenging, and in a different direction than you thought, but very easily reached, in fact it requires some serious re-direction, care and support to shift your target.
The target is in many ways comes from stress and negative beliefs which create a chain of habitual reactions in the body, these set off our very own set habitual and addictive patterns, overeating and binging, which were set in place very early on in our past and are now run along totally independently of our control. We are unconscious of the reaction unless we choose to see and feel it.
This is what I offer you a chance to see and feel the reaction as it takes place, and re direct it to the new more accurate target, one you can aim for and hit and see results.
These are totally OK and once you see and feel them for yourself, you can decide what to do with these experiences and move on.
Here is a brief example from a client, that I have called Susanne and she has admittedly used food as her drug of choice when she has situations that up set her.
When there is a wobble and she feels the discomfort in her body, even if it is hour later after the instance, she knows she needs and deserves a reward for dealing with this situation and so dives into her fridge and cupboards when she gets home and devoirs what ever is in there. This binging is her delayed gratification and addictive behaviour that she wanted to resolve, when she came to me.
One thing I always do is introduce you to, is where you can find your most relaxed place and we call this your safe place or home. It has a feeling of being totally safe, which is something many of us have never felt, ever in our lives and when we find this place it is essential to go there often. I have used this place with my son recently as he was being bullied at school, so it has many uses.
Susanne was open to the experience and what could be done to unlock the need for the need for the binging spell she had herself under. We did my guided meditation to start her off to uncover her hidden habits.
During the Body Wisdom inner meditation, which had the unique purpose of finding the precise feeling she had when she needed to binge eat, and then what it would be like not to actually binge eat at those times.
When we arrived where we needed to be, we discovered together that the feeling was one of a real pain she could now identify in the belly, a long twisted, shaking, chaotic pain that was all screwed up inside her.
We felt the actual pain as if she had been in a situation of being out of control, and got her really familiar with it, so she would recognize it again. We went below the pain and asked it what was beneath it, and we got fear, then rejection, then alone, then finally it disappeared and she felt peaceful. The pain was gone. Leaving a clean, airy and expansive feeling. Her posture changed and she was serene and there was no desire for food to full, numb out or kill the pain.
I get images sometimes and saw her Emotional Eater personality scratching her head, and at a loss of what to do.
This was of no concern as she will soon vanish, leaving my client with the knowledge of how emotions and feeling your bodies language through pain, and seeing it as an indicator and reminder and a warning in your body. Then there is no fear and anxiety or need to suppress the feeling of pain any longer. You can feel the pain rise and fall, as well as fully experience the joy and gratitude as it expands within you, all without the need to attach food to the experience.
She could not believe how simple it had been to do this journey, to find this place that had transformed her perceptions of what she was feeling. We cannot plan, strategize, or use a formula that works for someone else this is a personal journey and the doorway to really seeing yourself for the first time.
Solutions are easier with a guide and someone who has been there and experienced the same path.
So if you know what to do but can’t stay in the action, and those late night extra meals, snacks and binges get in the way.
Or if you obsess and want weight loss but cant stop thinking about food and labelling it as good or bad
Or if you have a dream to look and feel better than you are today, yet the focus is on food and how it is keeping you stuck
I have something for you. If you are ready to dive into a deeper intensive program and commit to change for the long term, and stop using food as being your long standing excuse for not being the person you can be, NOW IS THE TIME!
I will ask you to contact me before the close business on Friday 31st July to sign up to a revolutionary program with me.
I will get back to you and offer you an initial clarity call to gauge your level of commitment.
Here is to your discovering your peaceful place and feeling happy and unstoppable in your own body.
Your relationship to food and our bodies is the doorway and is reflected in your relationship to EVERYTHING.