WHY IT WAS NOT ENOUGH TO STOP EATING FAT TO LOSE WEIGHT
WHY IT WAS NOT ENOUGH TO STOP EATING FAT TO LOSE WEIGHT
I was 26, finally divorced and free from an abusive relationship, but I was so scared for the repercussions for leaving him. So I avoided the towns I used to live in and I started up again somewhere new. I was scared and I was still running.
I found someone to help me when I was 35 as I was still avoiding and running from any confrontation, what I wanted instead was a feeling of safety and to re claim my slimmer body. What I did not know was that in the years that followed my leaving an abusive partner, I would be plagued by certain physical cravings and symptoms. These told me (when I understood the reasons) that I had dismissed and avoided a part of myself, and that needed to be addresses and cleared up. I had gained weight and I had irregular and painful digestive problems. I had craved fatty carbohydrate foods that made me feel better and calmer, when ever I was triggered by a memory or faced with a decision that I did not want to have to make. That was what finally spoke to me to look beyond the normal solutions of restricting my food and do the work necessary to heal myself and my relationship with food.
That is when I found out something remarkable about the body. My body was asking for fat and using my fat as a physically storage and back up protective system, for all the stories and hurt I had stored up, the emotional blackmail, the abuse, and the string of damaging relationships I had encountered. (Be that partners, family members, as well as friends taking advantage of my willingness to help.)
My internal thoughts, memories and self torment were keeping all these past experiences alive, and I had needed somewhere to store these, as I did not know how to digest and get rid of them, or seemingly stand up for myself. I had never been taught to deal with my emotions, especially confrontation or how I could leave it all behind and move on. I had become an expert at avoiding and dismissing my needs and buried myself in self protection strategies, (eating fat or shopping or being really, really busy ) shutting myself off and helping others in drama’s and problems, rather than look at myself. I did that busy so very well, working long hours into the night, losing myself in my tasks and computer and not really showing up as the mother I wanted to be. Then when I faced a problem at work I would be the perfect mother and avoid my work blaming each time consuming activity for my inability to stand up for myself and tell the truth. This has been my life lesson.
All the years and effort of diets, detoxes, and exercise were never going to be enough for me, until I was safe to let it all go, these old wounds I was still carrying around, like a stone in my heart and a huge heavy boulder in my belly.
I made a decision and promised myself they had to go. What I discovered was that I had had no real boundaries all this time, I had let my ex partner abuse, bully and use power over me. I became a victim and I felt I deserved more, so I turned to secretly eating and hiding my food. Too much of a nice girl not saying what I thought of him – made me fat, so where is my inner skinny bitch I needed, who stood up for herself – I began to wonder is she existed at all?
I took a stand and got clear on everything I wanted, I strengthened my perception of who I was, and I started to stand by my decisions, and as I did my energy and boundaries became rock solid. Then and only then did I start to lose weight, I actually tightened up and I got the ease in my digestion that I always wanted. I lost 2 stone in 2 months attending to the four corners of my being just ME, my mindset, my emotions, my physical and my energetic needs. I now understood what my body had been calling for me to see, and what she had intended for me all along.
As an Intuitive Body Whisperer, I see and feel what women have stored, the events from their history, that can be cleared easily with a simple re-connection to their body and get the messages that they need most. This work lifts us beyond the physical symptoms we are experiencing, and our bodies are able to be re-claimed, along with our energy and vitality, and our minds are clear to ask for what we want. It’s a remarkable experience to have and to witness.
What lies beneath your physical symptoms I wonder? What is your body asking for you to clear away? So that you can develop into the formidable woman you always knew you could be. The woman you intended to be and who is here to live the S#*t out of her life.
What is the major fear you have of being slim, sexy and rocking your body?
Now it’s up to you to turn on your inner sexy slim babe, or stay as you are for the next decade!
It takes just 20 Minutes for me to decipher your triggers and avoidance tactics in a ‘Body Scan’ which will assess your level of stress and feed back to you what your body is wanting you most to understand and hear, so that you can progress into the next phase of your life as a thoroughly wise and ignited woman.
- Discover your NO 1 Trigger (mind set, emotion or energetic undercurrent) that keeps you battling with your cravings and your weight
- What you need to do to unblock your stubborn weight.
- My Favorite method to find out what your body is really craving (Hint it is not what you think)
Take one of the 5 slots running on this topic this month ‘Body Scan’ . https://fionarobertson.acuityscheduling.com/and make 2017 the year you finally know how to reclaim your body, and your life.
Need my help creating, implementing and managing your BODY from the food you consume, what foods help and what foods hinder, how stress can be reduced in a heartbeat, to what physical symptoms you have and why, so that you can allow your body to re calibrate and become the body you always dream of moving into, that allow you to do and feel all of the things you desperately want to do and feel.
What do you want and what do you need most of all?
I offer a variety of programs and coaching packages, programs and All Done For You Services – so simply book in a friendly unraveling call with me and let’s chat and clear away what stopping and blocking you! I am here for you and can show you the pitfalls and the best and quickest routes to take. https://fionarobertson.acuityscheduling.com/
You need a high level coach. Someone who can catch all your mindset blocks, support you completely, and hold you accountable to step up and be the woman you are meant to be. That means committing to doing the work, then actually showing up AND doing the work, and it means investing. I’d love to help you, you deserve to be in the body that reflects who you really are.
I’m OK if you don’t do this, I feel sad for you, but I am OK. Do it for yourself so that this time next year you are looking and feeling like the woman who rules her world.